Doc McStuffins made me cry this morning.
If you don’t know Doc McStuffins she is a small, maybe 5 year old, cartoon character who is a doctor to her stuffed animals. C loves her some Doc McStuffins and she earned enough “points” this weekend from being good to get to watch an episode this morning (no, this has nothing to do with keeping C preoccupied while I try and get ready for work, I swear…).
This morning the episode she was watching was all about Doc getting homesick at her first sleepover. To make her feel better, her stuffed animals sing her this song:
“When the one that you love feels so far away
Just close your eyes try to picture their face
‘Neath the night sky you can see the same stars…”
Anyone see where this is leading? Yup, to me, standing in the bathroom trying to put on makeup while crying. Sigh. I’m guessing this is not going to be the first time.
Now, back to the logistics at hand. Do they have to do with packing? Nope. We’re surprisingly on top of that so far. Transitioning C to a new home, new daycare, new world? Nah. So far she’s all good. These are purely D related logistics related to moving my career without rocking too many boats.
I’ve been a lawyer at the same law firm for 17 years. I started here as a summer clerk in 1996 and they have been kind enough to let me stay here ever since. And, while I’m excited about our new life in the FS, I’m not ready to jettison my career quite yet, so I’m going remote. The firm has been extremely flexible in helping me figure out how I can transition and it has all felt very easy…so far.
Until I started having to schedule things in September. Now, all of a sudden, I’m filling up my September calendar with depositions, mediations and hearings and none of them, not surprisingly, are happening in Washington, D.C. These sort of logistics have never been terribly difficult before because B’s job was such that he could typically leave by 5 p.m. and could always pick up C (and drop her off). He’s been a de facto single parent on more than one occasion while I’ve been in trial or out of town in depositions.
As I mentioned in an earlier post, when I went back to work B stayed home and took 12 weeks of FMLA. It was (in a word) AWESOME. I’d get up, feed C, leave, stop and get a coffee, work all day, return home and find a clean, happy baby and a fully cooked (often relatively gourmet) meal waiting for me. Seriously folks, it did not suck. About two weeks after I went back to work I had to go to New Jersey for 5 days for depositions. It was a grueling trip, but other than pumping and shipping milk back to C via FedEx (yes, you really can do that), I could concentrate on my work knowing C was well cared for and loved back home.
But as of August 25 we are not in a world where B has a 8-5 job any more, Dorothy (not what D stands for, but good try). So, besides worrying about the actual depositions/mediations/hearings, I’m also worrying about how logistically I’m going to manage.
At least a few days of B’s A-100 training will be “offsite,” meaning he will not be able to drop off, or pick up, C. Do we know when this offsite week will be? Of course we don’t! We *think* it will be the third week of A-100, but, as with all things FS, “it depends” on a number of other factors. So right now I’m scheduling my work commitments and hoping B will be available to put his Super Daddy mantle back on for a few days. Add to that trying to decide if it is better to fly (more expensive), or drive (longer, but WAY more convenient in terms of having autonomy when I get back to CLT), and whether to stay in a hotel (sleep guarantee) or bunk with friends (fun guarantee), and I feel a bit like I’m living in this parallel universe where part of me is pretending things aren’t really going to change.
I really want to make this flexible, portable job work for me, but I suspect this will be another aspect of my life where I will have to let some control go until I can get my bearings in DC.
Oh, and speaking of getting bearings, we have an address! And a phone number! I haven’t had a landline in so long I feel like I’m stepping back to the dark ages a bit, but I think I can remember how to work a regular phone (of course we’ll probably have to unplug it most of the time to stop C from calling either the fire department or Australia…).
As for Doc McStuffins, tomorrow we’ll be watching an episode where she fixes some toy cars; toy cars never make me cry.